How I left, and contributing factors

As a kid growing up in a Jehovah's Witness household one of the first things I learned was the importance of having good associations. To be considered good association one must have good standing in the congregation, being baptized guaranteed it, but since children were not baptized before they had an understanding of what was going on and what was expected of a Jehovah's Witness, there were other factors. Some of the questions most parents asked about their children's associates was whether or not they participated in the 'life saving' work of door to door witnessing as a 'publisher', did they not only attend the meetings with their families but also participate in the discussions, and did they have good influences in their lives? If the answer to any or all of these questions were no, you might be bad association.
Usually the kids who were good associations had fathers who were Elders or Ministerial Servants. Usually their mothers worked part time or didn't work at all and pioneered, served full-time in the field ministry.
I grew up in a single parent home, and my mom never pioneered, my grandmother did though and she had really good standing in the congregation. My mom was seen as ambitious, she eventually worked towards a professional degree in order to help provide for her small family. This, was something that I loved my mom for. However , it didn't go over too well in the congregation.
I don't think that my sister and I were officially labeled bad association during our time as children, but we definitely were not seen as good association.
It was pretty lonely for kids who didn't have parents were were well regarded in the congregation. You were admonished for having "worldly" friends but, you were never invited to the Jehovah's Witness kids' parties or outings.
To me it was very hypocritical, and by the time I finished my second year of college I was gone.